The Critical Ingredient to Healing a Relationship

A few years ago I had a major blowout with a friend when we were working together in a non-profit.  To be honest to this day I don’t know why.  She suddenly grew very angry.  Our work relationship and friendship imploded.

When the project concluded I called her one afternoon and said, “I really don’t know what went wrong but I’m sorry for hurting you whatever I did.”

She responded simply, “Thank you.”

To say the relationship remained strained would be a gross understatement. [Read more…]

How to Make Peace in a Church

Jerry Seinfeld had a great line, “People–they’re the worst!”

I would modify it, “Christians–they’re the worst!”

Ever feel that way?  Man I have. [Read more…]

What To Do When Your Church Splits

A church in our city has bred more church splits than any church I’ve know.  They drove out the first pastor I knew who was a great teacher.  The next one they didn’t like any better.  So when he wouldn’t leave a core group gutted the church and started a “mission church.”

That spinoff has split several times since.  And those spinoffs have imploded. [Read more…]

Finding Elusive Peace

WT Stressing Out

WT Stressing Out

 

“For he himself is our peace.”  (Ephesians 2: 14 NIV)

Finding peace.   Isn’t it really one of the core drivers for most of us?  I mean inner peace, spiritual peace, relational peace.  Aren’t most of us obsessed with finding it?

And it’s so frustratingly elusive.  It comes and goes with exasperating frequency.

So what do we do? [Read more…]

Never Alone Again

Photo by Steve Williams.  Fasi Winery Driving Tour

Photo by Steve Williams. Fasi Winery Driving Tour

 

“Don’t forget that you Gentiles used to be outsiders. You were called “uncircumcised heathens” by the Jews, who were proud of their circumcision, even though it affected only their bodies and not their hearts. In those days you were living apart from Christ. You were excluded from citizenship among the people of Israel, and you did not know the covenant promises God had made to them. You lived in this world without God and without hope.  But now you have been united with Christ Jesus. Once you were far away from God, but now you have been brought near to him through the blood of Christ.”  (Ephesians 2: 11-13 NLT)

I look back in amazement that when I gave my life to Jesus I near instantaneously connected with a whole new group of friends.

At the time I was living in a fraternity house surrounded by “brothers.”  Continuous parties,  girls and drinking. Yet, in many ways I felt alone.  Sure lots of friends but few I could open up to. [Read more…]

Created For Greatness

“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.”  (Ephesians 2: 10 NLT)

I’m not surprised so many people don’t go to church.  Actually, sometimes I’m surprised by the number that do.

I mean so much is taught about how worthless we are and unworthy of God’s love.

And while the latter is true the former is false.

Yet, when someone focuses on that they don’t see their life as an adventure but rather as an ordeal.  They see themselves as someone God’s just putting up with. [Read more…]

Launching The Amazing Life

“For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God not by works, so that no one can boast.”  (Ephesians 2: 8-9 NIV)

The best summary for launching the amazing life I’ve ever found.

Pretty simple.  Yet, so hard to rest in.

So many get it right in the beginning but then add layer upon layer of religion until their new life is squelched.  They start in that simple faith but then insidiously drift into trying to keep God’s blessings through their own efforts.  Finally their life collapses into frustration and anxiety.  Or they just give up. [Read more…]

Seeing the Unimaginable

“In order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus.”  (Ephesians 2: 7 NIV)

Do you ever wonder why so many Christians seem defeated?

I mean we read awesome promises in scripture yet for so many reality seems detached.

I see promised an amazing life.

Yet I see way too much sickness, broken relationships and financial struggles. [Read more…]

Amazing Power Now

“And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus.”  (Ephesians 2: 6 NIV)

So many people trudge through life defeated.

They’ve tried to accomplish great things.  Live their dreams.  Use their gifts.  Done what they’ve heard brings real success.

Yet, what happens?  Before long they hit roadblocks.  They find the journey far harder and way longer than they ever imagined. [Read more…]

What A New Life Looks Like

“But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved.”  (Ephesians 2: 4-5 NIV)

In high school and college I struggled with depression.   I could be ecstatic one moment and an hour later crash into a darkness that would linger for a couple of days.

It grew steadily worse in college but I never told anyone.  I come from a family that you just “suck it up” and fix your problems. [Read more…]