I fail at New Year’s resolutions routinely.  Well, at least I’m consistent.

I may want to lose an extra 10 pounds I’m carrying around so I resolutely set the goal.

But then those left over Christmas cookies keep calling my name.  I think, “It’d be a shame to waste them and I’d probably hurt my wife’s feelings if I didn’t eat them.  So I’ll have just a couple, each night.  It won’t hurt anything.  Then I’ll get really serious after they’re gone.”

I bet you can relate.

We set out to change our lives to accomplish our dreams.

We set a New Year’s resolution yet studies show before January ends most people have already given up.

Now, one failed resolution may not be a big deal but we set ourselves up for further defeat.  Every time we fail it reinforces not only our failure but that we’re a failure.  And that makes it ever harder to try something out of the ordinary in the future.

So the cycle of failure, frustration, defeat and discouragement continues until people finally give up on their most important dreams altogether.  Then settle for mediocre.

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