How to Become the Person You Really Want to Be

Have you ever tried just keeping up with all the instructions given in church on Sunday mornings.

I mean this week eight steps to healthy relationships. Next week five steps to happiness. Next six steps to job success. No wonder we’re exhausted.

Yet that isn’t how life was meant to be. God instead offers to change us into the person we really want to be so we can live the life we dream of. And he does it in his power from the inside.

But how?

The apostle Paul writes, “It only takes a minute amount of yeast, you know, to permeate an entire loaf of bread.”*

It comes down to focus.

We can focus on all the efforts we need to make. Or we can focus on the life changing power of God working within us.

We can try to follow a new set of rules each week. Or we can rest in the love God has for us even as we are. Then trust he’s changing us into the person we really want to be.

We can force those changes. Or realize it takes a lifetime and enjoy the journey.

Then be surprised as we become the person we really want to be.

 

*Galatians 5:9 (MSG)

Becoming the Person You Really Want to Be

Sometimes I can grow pretty frustrated with myself. I know the kind of person I’d like to be when I grow up and frankly way too often I fall short. And that leaves me a bit discouraged at times.

Yet, I also remember that this transformation business is an inside job. It’s not something I do by grinding out strict personal disciplines as much as trusting God to work the changes.

I was reminded of that when I read this parable Jesus told.

“The Kingdom of Heaven is like the yeast a woman used in making bread. Even though she put only a little yeast in three measures of flour, it permeated every part of the dough.”*

Frankly, that gives me hope because I realize, like yeast, the new life that came into me permeates me. It works changing me from the inside. Bringing light where there’s darkness.

This parable reminds me of one more thing also. This change takes time. Yeast leavens bread but not instantaneously.

So when I grow discouraged it helps to remember God isn’t finished with me yet. The process continues. And my life keeps getting better and better.

 

*Matthew 13:3 (NLT)

When You’re Frustrated with Life and Want Something Better

When I first entered into my relationship with God I came with a lot of baggage from my previous life style. My life didn’t change all at once. Rather it changed very slowly often imperceptively.

In fact to this day, decades later, I still wrestle with some of the same issues. Just ask my wife.

I’ve watched this pattern over and over in the lives of others as well. Their lives truly change but they carry over a lot of bad habits sometimes for a lifetime.

I see a common response from well meaning popular churches.

The pastor preaches on five things to do to fix your marriage. Then next week seven steps to further your career. Then next three steps to stop worrying.

But the problem is we’re trying to fix our lives from the outside in our own power. And frankly it just doesn’t work very well. It can drift into legalism. And sometimes people grow so discouraged they give up thinking, “I just do it all.”

Yet, the good news is God is in the business of changing us from the inside. And when we simply rest in his power it allows him to do just that.

Surprised by an Amazing Life When You Least Expect It

As we grow older it is so easy to give up. To think, “It’s too late for me to accomplish my dreams. I’m too old. I don’t have the time.”

I know. I hear it way too often because, well, I’m in that age group.

Yet look at this story Jesus tells that frankly promises no constraints.

“The Kingdom of Heaven is like a mustard seed planted in a field. It is the smallest of all seeds, but it becomes the largest of garden plants; it grows into a tree, and birds come and make nests in its branches.”*

What I love is that it’s not conditioned on the size of the seed. It’s conditioned only on the size of the potential life inside the seed.

Likewise the amount of success and blessing from God isn’t conditioned on the size of our faith. It is conditioned only by the unlimited power released by our minuscule seed of faith.

Then he draws a picture of life that blossoms into something amazing. A life beyond what we can even imagine.

A life of significance that touches others and brings the greatest fulfillment and blessings of all.

Now that’s surprising isn’t it?

 

*Matthew 13: 31-32 (NLT)

How to See God’s Amazing Life

So why does our experience so often diverge from God’s promised amazing life?

In fact you might be thinking, “Wow, I’d just like to have one amazing day.”

I think sometimes it’s because we’re told, “You just need to have more faith.” Yet, I find when my faith is running low that’s really discouraging because, well, I don’t have enough faith.

That’s what I love about this promise from Jesus.

“I tell you the truth, if you had faith even as small as a mustard seed, you could say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it would move. Nothing would be impossible.”*

Wow, just a minuscule amount is enough. More like hope really.

Realize that the amount of your faith isn’t the deciding factor in experiencing the amazing life God has for you.

So stop being discouraged because you feel you just don’t have enough faith. Realize what you have is enough.

Then focus your faith on a promise from scripture which answers your needs and brings your desires. Yes, look it up. Memorize it if you like. Think about it. Focus on it.

Then believe what Jesus said, “Nothing will be impossible.”

Are you ready to experience all that God has promised?

 

*Matthew 17:20 (NLT)

Would You Like Your Life to Grow More and More Amazing?

I celebrated a birthday a few months ago. Well, actually more like ignored it. Now in my sixties I try to forget them.

Over the last few years I’ve had several friends die. Another just last week.

Which along with the grief I find is an irritating reminder that life is finite and goes by way too fast.

I’ve had a great life. Been truly blessed. Had some successes and more than a few failures.

Yet, frankly there’s so much more I’d still like to do but time is ripping by.

In the midst of that it’s easy to give up or give in. I hear friends make excuses, “Well, I’m too old.” Or “It’s too late.”

I also watch others bury themselves in activity never stopping to think about what life could be.

Yet, when we’re all alone with our thoughts the realization that life is slipping by sneaks in. And for some the regrets of what could have been but now will never be.

I truly believe God has a different plan, though. The best is yet to come. Life is meant to just get better and better.

What would happen if we expected that? What might we see?

Secrets of the Amazing Fruitful Life

I was the least likely candidate in the world to become a spiritually focused writer.

 

Wheat Train

 

I mean when I first entered into a relationship with God in college I didn’t know much of anything. Oh, I was raised in a church. I remember the flannel board Bible stories. Yeah I know, but that was high tech back in the dark ages.

Yet, most of it seemed detached from my life. Well, except for the cute girls in the youth group. I wanted attachment with them.

But somehow I reluctantly and tentatively entered into a relationship with God in college.

 

And then I grew hungry to learn more and experience fully this amazing life he offers.

 

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How to Step Out of the Rat Race to See God’s Miracles

I had a friend who was an Energizer Bunny. You remember the ad with the bunny that just kept going and going?

 

Energizer Bunny

 

He couldn’t tolerate quiet. He constantly had music playing. If the stereo wasn’t on the TV was blaring. If he was away from those he had in his ear buds listening to music on his phone.

He could never just sit still. He always had some project he was working on. Constantly.

We talked a few times about spiritual things when he asked questions. He seemed genuinely interested. Occasionally I suggested a book I thought he’d find helpful. But he never could find the time to read them.

 

Eventually, he imploded.

 

Lost his career, his family, everything. I lost contact with him but I think about him sometimes.

Yet, I’m not being judgmental. I can get caught up in busyness as well.

When I was younger I could be very much like my friend. Racing and never slowing down. Trying to outrun the demons swirling in my brain.

But you know what? I never could.

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The Choice That Unleashes the Amazing Miracle Life

I was eating dinner one evening with an acquaintance at a banquet when the discussion drifted onto spiritual topics. I was surprised but he evidently had heard I was a Christian and so he wanted to tell me his world view.

He said, “I don’t believe in God. When I was in college and studied evolution it changed my life. I made a decision that I no longer believed in God. I just don’t see how any intelligent rational person can possibly believe in God.”

 

Forest Road

 

Wow, that really endeared him to me. Yet, it was neither the time nor place to have that an in depth discussion. So I simply shared with him a bit about my journey into faith and briefly the reasons why to me it makes sense.

He replied, “That’s nice for you but I just don’t buy it.”  After that we didn’t have any more time to discuss it so we left it at that.

 

Yet, I thought afterwards that in reality he chose his position and really didn’t want further exploration.

 

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How to Unlock the Amazing Miracle Filled Life

During the ten years I pastored the church we experienced spectacular growth. Dynamic ministries for all ages were started. We saw lives dramatically changed and occasionally witnessed full up miracles.

Yet after ten years we faced a cross roads. For the church to keep moving forward we needed to make some major strategic changes. We faced some head winds that prompted the decision.

 

Midnight Church

 

Over several months I consulted with different leaders and felt their resistance. Ten years of constant change and pressing forward had left many tired. And the ministry was at a stable comfortable place.

Yet, I’m not wired up to sit still for very long. I don’t do boredom well. And the church needed to keep moving forward or it would atrophy.

I knew I could probably press through the changes but I was concerned it could split the church which I didn’t want.
So I decided it would be best to resign.

One evening as we sat in a circle in the church parlor I announced my intentions to the board. Several board members expressed their sadness yet hesitant relief.

The core leader of the group summed up the feelings, “Doug I’m really sorry to see you leave. We’ve had a great run. But frankly I’m relieved to not have the pressure of pushing on.”

 

A few months later I left. Ten years later the church disbanded.

 

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